What’s next for me?

If I had a pizza for every time I’ve been told this:

“You need to write a book.”

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When I abruptly left the ministry, I assured everyone that I was not retiring in the typical sense of the word. My reply to those who expressed dismay at my no longer serving as a pastor was that I was confident the Lord had another career for me. I told them I intended to continue to serve my fellow Christians, but I didn’t know what shape that would take.

That was 2014. At the time, other than talking to a handful of church leaders, I could not speak about my gender dysphoria. Thus, I had to remain vague about what I hoped to do after leaving the ministry. But, already then—during the period when I had no idea whether I would be able to hold on as a male or would attempt transitioning—I was confident that I would eventually go public regarding my gender issues.

Why? I was going to be public about it for exactly the reason I learned by having done so in 2015, because the world was in the dark about gender dysphoria, and because I found the Christian Church, and especially my Lutheran Church—Missouri Synod, to be completely unequipped to work compassionately with trans persons.

I knew that I wanted to do two things. First, I endeavored to write my life story, with the emphasis on my gender issues and all that I have learned and experienced. Second, I was determined to get to a point where I could make presentations to Christians, to educate them about transgender matters.

I am pleased to report that my plan is taking shape. In September, I reached important stages toward the two goals. Indeed, they were in themselves goals realized.

  • I have completed the first draft of my book—forty-nine chapters and more than 100,000 words.
  • I have made my first transgender education presentation to a church group.

“Riding a Roller Coaster through a Hurricane”

The working title of my book is borrowed from Julie’s description of my life in 2013. She said, “You are like a chrysalis that is riding a roller coaster through a hurricane.” In this, she captured how fragile I was as I lived through a most tumultuous time.

Having written my life’s story, I have a first draft done. Two friends are reading it, providing feedback, looking for errors and anything helpful they can provide. I am also reading it, searching for errors and looking for ways I can improve the text, either through addition (especially things I forgot to write) or subtraction.

The next step is the tough one. Should I pursue publishers, submitting a book proposal? Or would I be wise to search out a literary agent? Or should I go straight for self-publishing? Julie and I don’t have much money to spend, so that will temper anything I do.

I could use your concrete assistance.

I have read up on how to write a book proposal, seek a literary agent, and self-publish. Where I am lacking is connections. The saying was created because of the truth it contains, that it’s not what you know but who you know. If you know a literary agent who might be interested in my story, please reach out to me. If you have connections with a publisher which could be the right one for my book, please contact me.

I truly am in need. This task is daunting to me. I will proceed because I believe in my story, find it one that needs to be told in detail, and hope that the book can open doors to the education I want to do.


My desire is to educate, whoever and wherever. My first hope is to give my Transanswers presentation to Christians, either to congregations or to pastors.  I have three versions of it—one for Christian lay folks, one for ministers, and one for a secular setting, such as the workplace.

During my first presentation of Transanswers.

Four weeks ago, I had my first opportunity, presenting at a local church. I am pleased to report that it was well received. The folks paid close attention during my just-over-an-hour talk—no one drifted to looking at a phone, which is today’s ultimate test!—and then they had numerous excellent questions, so many that we did not have time to cover all of them.

Three ministers were in attendance, the resident pastor and two retired ones. One of the retired pastors wrote to me that he found my presentation to be “educational, inspirational, and courageous.”

If you are in the Indianapolis area and have interest in my presentation, please contact me. If you are farther away and would like me to come to your place, I bet we can make it happen.

Moving forward

I continue to feel great. I’ve not had even the tiniest blip of gender issues.

In mid October, I have a meeting scheduled with an important church official. I am hoping good things come from that, getting my foot in the door to educate pastors.

I have one Transanswers lined up for a group of pastors, but because of full schedules I wasn’t able to be fit in until next spring.

Even as I work on getting my book published, I intend to write a book specifically for pastors, to help them in understanding gender dysphoria and ministering to transgender Christians.

I am sixty-one years old. I have all of the passion I had when I was a young man. I am raring to go.

Bring on career number three!

6 thoughts on “What’s next for me?

  1. Greg, God’s blessings in this endeavor. I don’t have any literary contacts. If you need another person to proof read, etc, I can do that. Having taught high school writing to my three sons, I’ve learned some skills about good writing, readable writing, and editing. But, won’t be offended if you have that taken care of.

    This needs to be addressed in the church. I personally have a church friend, young enough to be my daughter. Her father was a minister, and transitioned to a woman when my friend was a teenager. The father has come to our church a couple of times recently (grandson baptism and grandparents day) and I know her. She doesn’t attend church because she doesn’t feel accepted anywhere and it’s awkward. Our LCMS church could become her church. I remember telling my friend a few years ago – before I knew much about this topic or had even met her father – that I’d be praying for her father, that you never know what God can and will do.


  2. Thank you for this, Kathy.

    I will definitely keep you in mind as a proofreader. If I want it read again after making changes, I just might want fresh eyes on it.

    I sure hope that many in leadership positions agree with your assessment, that transgender needs to be addressed in the church. Your example, and similar ones, are being played out in the lives of many people, many Christians, many Christians who have walked away because of how they’ve been treated. We Christians simply must remember that we all are equal in the Lord’s sight, that Christ died and lives for all, that the Lord’s doesn’t play, or have, favorites.


  3. I have friends who have self-published, published through online publishers and have agents. I know the person who has an agent has had quite a bit of luck. My former boss is married to Roger Rapoport/author/publisher/producer. He had a publishing company in California, but now lives in Muskegon and has done a few books. He has also produced and directed two movies. Might be worth a shot sending him a note. https://www.manta.com/c/mm5mhb2/rdr-books and https://www.linkedin.com/in/roger-rapoport-a3789528 I believe he also has a FB page.


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